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What is a best friend?

Author: emberdragon
July 25, 2009

So I decided to take a different approach at my blog writing and use quotes.  This blog is about ‘best friends’  I will be addressing the questions: What is a best friend?  What makes them your ‘best’ friend?  How do you know if you’re a bestie?

Well, to kick this off, I wanted to use a dictionary definition of what a best friend is, thanks to Dictionary.com.. Best Friend: an intimate or close friend; see also Boon Companion.

So I’m sticking with this thought while we explore what other people consider a best friend.  I asked a few different forum’s I frequent what they think a best friend is.

Ben C:

“Well, I have tons of so-called friends, but if [stuff] gets dicey, my money is on them bailing on me, choosing themselves first. I have a feeling that a best friend isn’t just the one you spend the most time with; it’s one that you deal with like family; the one who ends up being a burden a lot. A worthy burden, but one none the less. If you don’t have anyone in your life that fits this description, then you may be the one who is a burden for your best friend. Better thank them.”
So, looking at what a burden is, something you put up with without needing to.  This is one example of what you might think a best friend is.
Mat F:
“I can answer the first one i think a best friend sticks by you no matter what. They look after each other even if they are miles away. They talk to each other even if they are very busy, and they can pick each other up when they fall, They love each other unconditionally. If they have most or all of those describe the person you are friends with then you’ll have the answer for the how part.”
This fits the dictionary definition a bit more closely, an intimate friend.  You might want to call anyone a best friend when you don’t trust them with anything, especially with your life.  let’s take a step back and look at what a friend is, shall we?
Friend: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
So, if we look into it a bit deeper, would a best friend just be a friend with no different disregard?  Or is there a stronger bond?
Sarah D:
“A best friend is someone who you can share your deepest secrets with and not be afraid that he/she will judge you, and will always spare some time with you, even though that friend has other commitments (romantic relationship, work etc)”
When I read this response from Sarah, I was thinking it would be the amount of trust you place in a person that decides if they are a ‘bestie’ or not.
Orion P:
“A best friend is someone you can be as close as you want to, but still be friends, someone you can do anything with and it means nothing more, someone who you would do anything for and same for them, someone who would help you no matter what and you same, someone who would take a bullet for you, someone who would fight a battle for you even if he knew you were completely wrong, someone who you never want to lose, and if you get in a fight whether it be physical or yelling you feel like [crap] after words.”
Now, this is a bit closer to my heart on best friends honestly.  When I call someone my best friend, I expect that if their life were in danger, I would give my life in their place without hesitation.  Of course this is easier said than executed.  Though again, I believe I am not alone;
Elpitt:
” [A] best friend is someone that would lay down and die for you, someone that would see you acting like a complete idiot and do idiotic things with you. “
Anonymous:
“Best friends are like brothers that you don’t have and won’t leave you alone in bad or good times.”
Rob K:
“Someone who knows the darkest thing about you and likes you inspite of it. Cause you’ve grown. And if they bake cookies. BONUS”
I know that personally I have numerous best friends, personally the people I spend the most time with and the people who I feel the most comfortable around I consider my best friends.  They come in all shapes and sizes, they have all different tastes and languages.  But I love them all in their own way.
So, in a bit of conclusion, a best friend is different to everyone,  but here are a few questions I will leave you with;  what is a best friend to you?
~Jessie
 

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